Whatever happened to "Say No To Drugs"?

In the 70's, 80's and even apart of the 90's, there were many ads and commercials and many community leaders preaching to everyone to Just Say No To Drugs...

...What happened to that?

Drugs are more accepted now than in any time that i can recall in my life. You have young kids smoking weed just because their friends do it (which is usually the case anyway, but its so much more of em now). Prescription pills have made their way into rap songs. You have more politicians admitting to drug use in their past and getting a pass because "we all have experimented" at some point or another.

Since when did inebriation become so cool?

In my opinion, with the rise of hip hop or rap as i still wanna call it, the words of the black man was to glorify drug use because it was apart of the urban lifestyle. Don't get me wrong, other cultures use drugs, but i honestly dont think it was cool to speak on it in a public format before rappers made it popular. I could be wrong, but thats where i pinpoint the trend of actually talking about it openly.

Celebs even make it seem cool to get high. They have made rehab a trendy place to be instead of a place to go for help. They may bounce in and out of rehab and still have a successful career (i.e. Robert Downey Jr.). Sure, America is a forgiving place, but i would think if you are a role model with a possible detremental effect on my children (if i had any) i wouldn't support you.

Its even to the point when someone asks "Do you smoke", in some circles, they automatically assume you're talking about weed. And lets not forget, WEED IS ILLEGAL. So to make the assumption that someone does it because everyone is doing it is kinda ass backwards to me when its supposed to be frowned upon. I have an associate that will not go out to a party, to a girls house, anywhere without getting high first. A step further, he wont date a girl if she doesn't get high as well. Now we are supposed to think this is wrong, but you would be surprised how many people feel the same.

We as a people are not supposed to glorify drug use, for it only destroys the mind, body and your home. We should instead look for alternatives to getting high.

At least if not for you, for the future. Cause the cloud that hovers over our society may get you high...

Does the music you like define you?

I recently have come across a young man who's name is irrelevant essentially. He was listening to a rapper that apparently is very popular. When he asked me if i like said rapper, I told him that im not really into much rap. His response, "But its {insert name here} how could you not listen to him. EVERYBODY listens to him". That statement saddened me to think that people could have such a one track mind when it comes to music and things they like. That also made me think, does the music you like define who you are?

Many of us come from neighborhoods that we are apart of the majority so when one doesn't like what everyone else likes, then that person is deemed strange. Growing up in Jamaica Queens, I've dealt with that myself. When I used to tell people that I was into Jazz & Alternative Rock, they would look at me like i was strange. Like a creature from a foreign planet. I used to hear, "take that rock and roll shit to the suburbs" or "that jazz shit is for old people". I always felt like you like what you like and that should be the extent of it.

There is a statement, "People fear what they don't want to take the time to understand"

I think there are many misconceptions placed on the music one listens to. One of my former co workers was the most clean cut guys, very well mannered and polite. A real cool guy. Never seemed like the type that would get into confrontations or even raise his voice much higher than the rest of the crowd. So, the assumption was that he was into contemporary, easy listening music. Quite the opposite. He was into hardcore rap and only liked his music to have violence and alot of profanity in it. He was white and many people told him he was trying to be something he was not. Is that the case? I didn't and still dont think so.

In a way, it can go back into a blog i wrote about before about how hard it is to actually be different ( http://notableobscurity.blogspot.com/2010/07/its-hard-being-different.html ) Sometimes you wanna conform just cause you dont wanna get picked on, but when are you truly being yourself when you try to front like you like what others like when thats not the case at all?

Its hard for some people to fathom a 21 year old Dominican from Washington Heights into the Opera and that plays the violin, but I have met one and he doesn't seem like the type to be into Opera.

But thats an assumption, and you know what they say about assuming...

If you cant judge a book by its cover, why do many of us try so much to do just that?

Raising Adult Babies

I will start off by saying I do hate how kids are nowadays to when I was growing up. That may make me sound old, but it is so true. Kids now are in such a rush to grow up more than any other time that I have known or heard in life. Every kid wants a cell phone, and not only a cell phone, they have to have the latest phone. They must have the trendiest clothes and the most expensive gadgets. There isnt much humility with kids now compared to when i was a kid growing up. The appreciation factor isn't there as much. Kids are exposed to much more than when i was a kid. Back when i was much younger, if adults were having a conversation, you were not allowed to listen in. When adults may have passed a child on the street, if they were using foul language, they would curb the curse words until the kid isn't in an ear shot of the conversation. Kids nowadays are dancing to songs more provocatively, they are wanting to enjoy adult things such as sex and inebriation. There was a video on the net that circulated for a little bit about a boy no older than 3 i would say dry humping a grown woman with his penis out. Now some thought it was appalling, but there are similar bad things going on as we speak. Maybe not exactly on the same scale but some things lead to bigger things. If you feel comfortable drinking alcohol around your kid, how can you be mad if they wonder why mommy is leaning in the chair laughing and seeming to have a good time? There are kids smoking weed right now that dont even know how to put together proper sentences. Some parents let these things go on and if someone were to intervene and say something, the parent may get defensive and chastise the adult trying to give advice. If it takes a village, why are some of the parents village idiots? So sad. I dont know if things will turn around, i doubt it honestly. I heard a kid say to his mom, im a grown ass man and you cant tell me shit. Wow. That kid had to be in elementary school at best. I also think that some parents are afraid to discipline their kid out of fear of the judicial system. There has to be an indication between physical discipline and abuse.


Either way, kids are getting out of hand.

Is Life Truly A Precious Gift?

Some may see the images above and say that im showing a very negative spin on life, but the question has to be posed.

Is Life Truly A Precious Gift?

Now typically, a gift is something you would want to recieve, but i know personally with all the hardships that i've been through, i surely didn't ask for this gift. Like some gifts, i appreciate it at times and other times i wish i could exchange it for something better. Its hard not to feel this way sometimes when dealing constantly with adversity.

There is so much poverty, pain & suffering, natural disasters that can take life away from you just as quickly as the nut your dad bust to help conceive you. You can be walking down the block and an air conditioner falls right on your head. You can go at any time. So with that being said, if your life is horrid from beginning to end, how can you appreciate it? Its hard for people to truly look towards the afterlife because of the uncertanty of it all. We all have our different views and opinions on that subject as well. Many people that i know tell me when im down and out that god has a place for me in heaven. How can those people be so certain? If the unknown is truly that, how can anyone know where they will end up? Its all about faith i suppose and i can respect that, but can you truly knock someone that has abandoned their faith when it just seems to get rougher and rougher?

We all go through different things in life, but if i were to say that i dont appreciate this gift called life, can i still go to heaven? I mean why not if i dont wanna be here in the first place.

Right now there is a person in a rural part of the world who has witnessed their family murdered, hasn't eaten for weeks and they are out on the street or in the woods somewhere suffering. Not to intentionally sound blasphemous, but that doesn't seem like a test of faith, seems more like a punishment for living.

But that could just be my feelings towards things. It usually is.

Are you a slave?

Many people seeing the title may think I may go in the direction of calling black people slaves, especially since im so critical of my people. I will tackle that slightly but there is a deeper message in the question stated.

Are You A Slave?

You may be a slave to your job.
Many of us are. Many people are undervalued, unappreciated & under paid at their place of employment. Sadly your employer has placed a value for your worth when at any job. Sometimes the pay doesn't equal the whole story. You may go above and beyond at your job and not reap the benefits of proper pay or appreciation. Now i dont believe that any employer should get down and kiss the ass of their employees when they are simply doing their job, but an occasional pat on the back can go a long way for alot of us.

You may be a slave to your relationship.
You may have good loving, but the fear of being alone may make you put up with things that you normally wouldn't. You may have a lover that gets on your nerves, but they cook and clean their ass off and you dont wanna sacrifice that for what may potentially be out there. You may be in an abusive relationship and fear alone enslaves you and keeps you from breaking free of those shackles.

You may be a slave to the trendiness of society.
You may feel the need to have the latest fashions, the newest car, the latest technological gadgets just to feel that you are above a certain class of people. Sadly, if this is the case you have not realized that the media has enslaved you (and quite easily at that). Companies spend millions, maybe billions annually just to have you addicted to the new "thing" that comes out. How many times have you heard of someone standing in line all night waiting for a store to open so they can be first in line to buy the latest iphone, or the newest jordans? Even black friday, a day where people feel like they are getting deals on pricy items, you are actually getting tossed a bone by the master who cosiders you a dog that should get an occasional treat. Some may say that they go above and beyond cause these things make them feel good, but in actuality you are trying to impress others cause envy feels oh so good sometimes.

You may be a slave to your children.
Some may look at that and say yeah right, but if you think about it, its quite possible. There are alot of ungrateful kids out there who recieve the world from their parents. Now its nice to give your kids all the things you never had, but make sure they have one important thing, respect. But back to the point im trying to make, you go above and beyond for your kids if you give a damn anyway. You make sure they are fed, bathed, sheltered, protected. That sounds like a house negro to me. Now i can understand the whole loving someone more than themselves, but if i recall, so was the feeling of the house negro towards his massa (yes, i did that for effect). If you are receiving the love of a kid who is ungrateful and disrespectful most of the time, that is something of the equivalent of a master giving his slaves chicken one day instead of pig intestines. Just to keep em thinking its all good and they really do care about me. This may not be the case for some, but i know quite a few that this is the case.


How do we as a people become free of these shackles that bind us?

Only you can answer that.

Me, i know i like freedom!

Are You Being Strung Along?

Lately, i've been hearing stories from individuals talking about how someone has led them on. It led me here, obviously, but im gonna try to go a little bit deeper than expressing the emotions of being led on, getting your hopes up and having them dashed immediately and pretty much from out of nowhere.

For those who have been strung along, I have the impression that the best defense to that is to be defensive. Alot of people I know have acted in this way. Its always hard to understand why this person has given you false hope and then when you go to take things a little bit further, they back off by telling you in their own sort of way, im not that into you. So to combat those feelings being hurt, some tend to dispise that person that has led them astray. Being bitter helps no one. Just know that person made the mistake and you will be better off for it.

To be the one doing the stringing along, its not always about just out to play someone. Maybe that person is stringing you along cause they dont wanna hurt you. I have had the pleasure in getting some insight from an associate of mine who tends to lead all his girls on. He says theyre stupid and deserve what they get. In a weird and coincidental act of karma, he got led on by a female that he was really into and his world is shattered. I just thought i'd share that. I also spoke to a friend who said she grew apart from the guy she was dealing with and didn't wanna be the one to crush his heart. Thats nice, but it also isn't helpful. You should be free mentally without fear of hurting someone to explore whatever makes you happy. Just always remember the 80/20 rule (if i have to explain it, its not for you to understand)

Sadly, we all have done it in some point. It may not have been in a relationship or someone you were physically attracted to but the point remains, sometimes you have to butter someone up to get what you want (once again, if it doesn't apply, let it fly). Sometimes stringing someone along can be a good thing to benefit you. Its never a good thing for the other party, it can only be not that bad.

The thing about getting strung along that i think affects most people is the fact that afterward, we said "I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER". This may be true but the heart wants what the heart wants at the time. That at the time may be extended for a lifetime, or it may just be for this time right, right now!

Its not fair to keep someone as a fall back option. Some people that lead people on, lead them on for that exact reason. You may have a fear of being alone or you may be nostalgic and think of a former lover, but dont make plans with that person just cause youre tired of coming home to an empty apartment. Make sure you assess that person is right for you and exactly what you want.

At the end of the day, if someone is being led on or is leading someone on, there is a lack of communication. Either its on purpose or by accident, but its still there. Some people are non confrontational and have no desire to approach those issues. They can build up and cause scarring emotional pain the likes no one would like to experience.

I've been there...
I'm sure you have too!

Unheard Cries For Help

Some things are better left alone
Keep the past in the present & the future unknown
This is the road less traveled, but its the road i know
Emotional imbalance keep my feelings postponed
If you only knew the things that grew
Deep within my mind to make the things i pursue
So untrue
So much pain
Empty explanations that things will be okay
But they'll never be the same
My brain i remain trying to change cause simple and plain...
I feel like shit
Sometimes i think im not mentally equipped to deal with it
I wanna let go
But when you aren't holding on, what do you let go?
The screaming in my brain begins to echo
I self loathe
My pain is deep
Yet those around me say my happiness is unique
When i think the outcome is bleek
Makes it hard to sleep, eat, fuck or taste anything sweet
My senses are numb
When do i begin to feel like the end is done.
Am i truly wasting time with these therapeudic lines?
Helpful to anyone's mind, but mine.
Line after line from a deprived yet the sublime kind
No one notices, no one cares
Maybe they will when im no longer there...

The Value of a dollar... in the black community

I wanna start off by saying that i never feel a race as a whole fits into a category, even if some people do excentuate the stereotype. Whatever it may be.

But this topic is important...

The Value Of a Dollar In The Black Community.

There are things about black people that I love. Their endurance through the hard times. They're lack of understanding in some cases. Their love for family and friends. But there is one thing (among others) that i really dont care for in alot of black communities. Their sense of value sometimes is really bad. There are people right now on welfare, 2 kids starving at home and crying, barely able to keep a roof over their head but you'll catch them every weekend at the club. There are people that live in the projects, where you are subjected to harsh living conditions yet they say they will never leave. And in those same projects you see those same people driving really expensive cars, nothing but the trendiest outfits on but they have nothing in their refrigerator but a half eaten bagel their friend said they could have three weeks ago.

I honestly think that some black people out there are too concerned with public image, but not in a full on manner. For instance, there are people out there screaming "im getting money" and all they do is sit back and wait for their welfare check with no assernable goals. There should be no reason anyone should be more concerned with the latest Gucci outfit when they don't even have a job.

Also, those that are actually getting more money than others feel the need to flaunt that money by purchasing frivilous things. Sure, these things may make them happy, but at what cost? Respect from others? Health? Self integrity? I know females out there that will sleep with a man or give them oral sex for a few hundred dollars, If that. Its sad but true. I know im not the only one who knows females like this. I don't wanna make men seem any better. There are guys out there who sell drugs, sit on stacks of money yet they get mad when their baby mother asks them for some money to get diapers.

As a people, we have to make our money work for us instead of let us be a target of potential hate or crime. If you shout how much money you're getting, someone's listening and they aren't doing half as well as you are. Do you think that person is going to care about your well being if they are bad off?

Also, there are tons of black men and women that are incarcerated right now over the sole purpose of "Getting money". That get rich or die trying motto that so many black people i have been associated with has gotten so many of them killed or locked up. That money cant save you if you're in jail. If anything, it makes you a target even more.

If you are doing well for yourself, let that speak for you. Please lets not be so concentrated with the flash and trying to impress others and lets think of building and growing.

This blog was generated to produce thought on the matter. Feedback would be appreciated.

Equal rights for Women... are things really equal?

The age of the Independent woman has made alot more women much more cold, less compassionate. But at the same time, still requiring constant recognition and attention for the things she does. Does that seem equal? I am not one to ignore the many things that women provide to society. There are more single mothers out there than any time in history that i know of . Women are a viable commodity in the workplace and their numbers are growing with each day. Women are no longer just a pretty face to show off, they are in the front of the line, walking and standing tall with men in many facets of society. We have female athletes, female doctors, lawyers, construction workers... just about damn near any position in the work force you can name, women now can proudly occupy it. This is a testament to how far women have come.

But when something is gained, some things start to lack.

There is a large influx of females that say they dont need a man or a family. To each their own but I truly feel the compassion from the female gender is on the decline in quite a few women. I've always stated in many cases that if it doesn't apply, let it fly. I know human beings period can be very defensive.

I have noticed that there is a bit of a role reversal but with confusion.

A friend of mine told me on the way coming back from a date, "If men and women are so independent, why did I have to reach for the check?"

Thats a petty way of thinking in a way, but there is some truth to this statement. In some capacity, women are still wanting to be treated very delicately but then want to wear the proverbial pants. Men are still expected to open doors, pull out chairs, bring flowers and roses as gifts. But there are some women out there that treat men how they think men treat women. Very cold. Callous. I heard a woman 2 days ago cursing her boyfriend (my assumption is that was her boyfriend) out in public, demeaning the poor man. 2 weeks ago, I saw a woman punch some guy in the face cause, and i quote "He wasn't listening to what i was saying". Her words, not mine. Now if he were to lay a hand on her, he is in the wrong. Is that equal?

With the growth of women, are men expected or eventually going to have to take a back seat?

Im not saying that i would expect women to revert to the "Dark ages" when women were expected to stay home and be barefoot and pregnant, but i do say that the evolution of the independent woman can have negative effects on society. Im not referring to the strong women of today, Hillary Clinton, Condoleeza Rice, Sarah Palin (even though i dont like her style, she is a powerful woman) but i am referring to the ignorance being spewed by certain women who feel that she can be deceitful to get what she wants. Im quite aware these women have been around since the dawn of time, but the percentages now are staggering. A young kid i know played a song where this artist named Nicki Minaj (maybe you've heard of her) spoke of sleeping with drug dealers to get what she wants. Is this independence? Is this the influence that you want to instill on the future generations? I sure hope not.

Like with anything, progress needs education. I believe the future generations of the strong, independent woman can strive. We just need more people to step up and show that men and women can exist as a cohesive unit. The equality is reached, but we must extend it to both genders. We must blur the statuses that have been set and draw new lines in the sand...

Or get buried in it.

its hard being different...

be yourself... sounds easier said than done.

In this day and age of stolen ideas, copied personalities & conformity, i hear 2 words that are said by some, but maybe not truly meant.

BE YOURSELF.

The only problem with being yourself would be not being accepted by your peers, which apparently is just as important as breathing. As a child, you are grouped with different personalities and you're told to be yourself. Sadly, children are cruel and will make you feel like less of a person if you aren't into the same music, fashion, television shows or anything that the consensus would like. If you have different views than others as a young child, you are subjected to being bullied & picked on for the duration of your school years. That fact has lead to many tragedies, mostly many school shootings over the years. People that are "different" usually will group with other people that are in the same cast off category and will either form a peaceful unity and become life long friends that just differ from others, or those same groups will take a different approach. They may result in resorting to violence to show that their oppression has not been felt by others and feel it should be.

Even as an adult, to be an individual can lead to a social outcast. There are many times when I have seen a person walking down the street and quickly in my mind passed harsh judgement because of their appearance. These same differences cost people things they value at times. A person could be a 4.0 student that went to Harvard, but if they happen to have a face full of piercings, that could cost them potential job offers, even if they are more qualified that the other applicant. The dating scene is also affected. A man could be the greatest guy, a nice job, good credit, nice car, but if he isn't like what she is used to, its a (strong) possibility she wont give that guy the time of day.

So, when is it truly okay to be an individual?

Sadly, in the society we live in, you can be an individual only if its socially acceptable. There are very few trend setters that actually go out on a limb and do something different and get respected for it. If you think of any trend setter in recent history, there was one before him/her that most likely did the same thing but wasn't respected for it. I have a personal example. Back in the late 90's, early 2000's, i came up with the idea to wear I love NY t-shirts in different colors. I was called many names for it, but a few years later, it was the latest trend. Im not sure who exactly got it so popular, but they were everywhere. Alas, I look back and think of the ridicule i took for going out on a mediocre limb. Imagine if i made a big leap?

There is an expression that goes, "Never judge a book by its cover", but in our society, if the outside doesn't look good, then the book is considered not worth reading.

Embrace individuality, no matter what form it comes in.

Once again, easier said than done.

Is Evolution Ruining Society?

As with most things that trigger my thoughts, this came from listening to an older gentleman talking to a friend of his about some High School kids walking down the block. The conversation started with the typical saying, "when i was their age...". When i was younger, I would hear those sayings and chalk it up to old people jealous that time passed them by. Now that I've gotten older, I think about those sayings but with how my mind works, i took it to a whole other level. With all the advancements in technology, is evolution in a way possibly ruining society?

Now, one might see this and say, how could that be possible? But if you think about it, it is a relevant topic. Over time, with the advancements in technology, many things have been affected because of it. Some things that you may not have even thought of in the same context.

Sure, who can deny the value of computers, but when the computer was invented, im sure the idea of internet porn wasn't the idea. There is a kid right now, ignoring his studies to chat with a friend online. I have no qualms with social networking (as i stated in a previous blog) but when it interferes with what one has to do, then thats a problem. I will be the first to admit, the internet can be quite addicting. Some that dont use the computer as much as others may still be a victim to the advancements in technology. Video games, television, smart phones... these all have taken the mind of the average person and turned them into a zombie.

Another thing i would like to bring up to validate my topic are the children of today. This is something that has been on my mind since i came of age. There is a point to be made that with the advancement of technology & society, the kids are, for lack of a better term, not kids anymore. Not all, but many of the kids nowadays that i witness are so fresh, so disrespectful that its just not funny. Now i know some may say thats not a fault of evolution, its on the parents. But in a sense, i beg to differ. I will never take the responsibility away from the parents, but there is an expression which i hold true still to this day. It takes a village to raise a child. If your village has children that are raised with values dont equal yours, then do you move from the village or accept the village and the villagers teachings? Most perform the latter, unless in the financial state to do so. The emphasis on fashion & technology is without a doubt more essential to children that in any other time in american history. Its a must to have a phone (smart phone preferably), an ipod, a big flat screen tv in your house and other gagets to verify the fact that you have money. To not have money nowadays seems like a cardinal sin. The values over the generational gaps have changed, and that could be due to technological advances.

Even jobs have been suffering due to evolution. Many people are losing jobs due to cost and time efficient machines. Factory workers for the most part are a dying breed. Eventually, there wont be the need for as many postal workers due to email. Regular mail is considered "snail mail" and people hate sending their mail that way. Retail can eventually suffer as well. You can buy a whole outfit online and eliminate the need to be hassled by sales clerks following you around the store looking for commission. You can even buy food & drinks online. Who's to say that one day, a huge chunk of the population wont even want to go outside?

All these things are debatable, and i would never want to ignore the benefits of technology. Advancements in modern medicine, the eventual search for a clean energy fuel source, space travel, education and more have been part of the boon of technology. Evolution is a constant, something we cannot avoid. We cannot go from crawling, to walking, to sitting down & not doing anything, letting machines do the work for us.

[sidebar] if you havent, check out these movies -

Gamer w/ Gerald Butler
Surrogates w/ Bruce Willis
Any of the Terminator Movies
The Matrix Trilogy

In my opinion, these movies are a possible sign of things to come.

Dont let evolution destroy the world.

Do big women envy slim women?

I think there is no clear cut answer to this question, for many women have different personalities ( and express that to men all the time). But i think it does make for a good conversation piece. It is something that i wonder and have wondered about off and on for quite sometime.

To me, human beings are the most exquisite creatures on earth, big or small. There is beauty in each and every individual (yeah, thats coming from me). There are too many people that dont feel comfortable in their own skin, and i mostly find that from big women. Don't get me wrong, i see other females that worry about this and that, but their feelings toward how they look usually pale in comparison to a big woman.

I took a poll on twitter (my information source, lol) and honestly, the number of big girls that feel they love their body is not what i would have thought it to be. But then again, im not sure if these women consider themselves thick or fat. Even with the term "thick", i think that gives too vast (pardon the pun) of a description to someone. I still dont see how one can be 5'6" & 145 pounds and another woman can be 5'7" & 240 and both women consider themselves thick. I truly dont wanna go there on that one tho.

Of course, we can look to the media and say they cater to slimmer women and give the impression that slim is happy, that slim is beautiful. The media makes slim look so attractive, that one cannot help but want to emulate that. It even gets to the point where some big women comment on other big women with such disdain. A couple weeks ago, i overheard a loud woman walking down the street talking on the phone about some fat bitch (her words, not mine) hating on her. Now this woman had to be about 200 pounds or more, so i couldn't imagine what the other woman looks like. I think thats one of the strangest things. That to me is like someone who smokes crack talking badly about someone who shoots up dope (thats a graphic comparison, but i think its warranted). Apples and Oranges. But hey, my long standing motto is, to each their own.

I would love for more women to love who they are without having to feel they need to look or act a certain way. I did receive a tweet from a guy which may sum it up in one sentence... "women aren't satisfied with themselves, even though we may be more than satisfied with them". So, i guess the big girl may envy the slim woman but even if she achieves her ideal weight, she wont be happy. I know this isn't the case for all women, but it is for quite a few of em.

So, when you're thinking about getting in shape for your summer body, remember your summer body and her summer body may not be the same, but they are both beautiful in their own right. Health & happiness is the key. Thats all that should matter in life. Eliminate envy & you will go far in life.
But like i said earlier, i know its easier said than done.

Homosexuality = Terrorism???

I recently came across something on ABC News which i found very interesting. In Uganda, there is a proposed Anti Homosexuality Bill that would punish those who are in a homosexual relationship by death. An American Christian church group(they were white by the way) coincidentally went to Uganda a year ago, preaching to the people there on their views on how homosexuality is the devil & its corrupting & threatening the heterosexual union between man & woman. This was, in large part due to the preachings of Pastor Martin Ssempa. The Ugandans went to the streets, praising the proposed bill and chanted how homosexuality is the equivalent to sodomy.

see the video here



Even though this would be a great topic for discussion within itself, im actually going in a different direction. Pastor Martin Ssempa in one part of the interview compared homosexuality to terrorism. Yes, terrorism. He then went on to elaborate by calling homosexuality, "Sexual Terrorism". As i watched the rest of the interview, i could not help but to think about how gay men & women are subjected to such hate by some & vigorously defended by others. If you think about it, many Americans feel the same exact way as Martin Ssempa, even though they may not express it the same way. Homosexuality is not as wide spread understood & accepted as television may lead people to believe. Some men still feel threatened or feel disgusted by gay men & resented & disrespected by gay women. On December 13 2008, in the Bay Area city of Richmond, a lesbian woman was gang-raped by four men who used homophobic epithets as they violently assaulted her for almost an hour, before leaving her naked in the street. The vicious attack began when four men jumped her after she got out of her car, which had a rainbow sticker on it, clubbed her with a blunt object, disrobed her and began raping her. When a passerby almost stumbled on them during the rape, they bundled the woman into her car and took her to an abandoned building, where the sexual attack continued, until the men finally left her naked, and badly injured. Sadly, these attacks happen all the time as statistics show that anti- gay crimes are on the rise since 2006 nationwide. Gay men and women are being sought out and killed in the streets for being who they are.

Terrorists are considered ones who threaten another person or persons way of life. No one wants to know the motives behind why they do what they do, just get rid of them. Terrorists are considered the lowest of the low, the scum of the earth.

I think this is truly an unfair assessment of gay people. To compare a sexual preference with those who try to take the most dramatic measures to get their point across is not fair. Terrorists may feel that they have been persecuted due to their beliefs, but gay men and women suffer unjust criticism & treatment because one may not approve of their lifestyle.

The world we know it is not ready for change until we are truly ready to take off the masks that we wear and stop trying to fit everything into a convenient little box. Acceptance is divine.

Are Social Networking Sites Taking Over Peoples Lives?

This year on my birthday, i got few phone calls saying "happy birthday", but the following day, i checked facebook and i saw quite a few people left me happy birthday gifts & comments on my facebook page & didn't feel the need to call me to tell me happy birthday because they left me a message on facebook. I also received quite a few birthday shout outs on twitter. I always appreciate the shout outs & i'll never deny the love i get, but this is a trend that has taken over not only in my life, but in the lives of many other ppl i know.

Are social sites taking the human factor away from us as a people?

Many people nowadays have some sort of addiction to some social site. You can go to a party and i guarantee at least 10 percent of the people are on their phone texting or on their instant messenger of choice, telling others about the party when in actuality, they are missing the party. Being somewhat of a twitter addict (who am i kidding, its a full blown addiction, lol) I can log on twitter from my phone & get updates on all shows that are popular, on any pro sports games that are currently on & get a play by play as soon as my timeline updates. This isn't totally a bad thing, but it does take away from the human element technology has in a sense taken away.

Some people even go as far to blame the downfall of their relationships due to social networking sites. I think thats preposterous if you ask me. Social sites are just another avenue that cheaters may use to find new people to start relationships with. If they didn't exist, would cheaters cheat less? I doubt it myself. I have noticed from viewing & interacting with people online over the years that some people are naive enough to believe any & everything the other person on the other end of the wires is saying. So many relationships are started online without even meeting the person (I know a couple that got married without ever seeing each other in person). I am not one to judge. Whatever works for you. But it is a disturbing trend that social sites have started.

I do believe that interacting with someone online is actually a cool way to get a prospective on how others live in other points in the world. I am not anti social networking, but i am anti- "let facebook/twitter/tumblr/myspace/etc" take over your life. If you would rather stay inside on a Friday night, go online & see how your facebook fam is doing (i hate that term, lol) instead of going out and enjoying the precious gift of life & sharing it with others, something is wrong. Now if you are the type to be anti social in public, but have 3,000 facebook friends and 20,000 twitter people you follow, that may be a warning sign that life is passing you by.

Balance is key, nothing should take over your life. Your actions. The decisions you make.

With that said, make sure you follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/Daddy_Jack (lol, i couldn't help it)

Diva? Lets see, shall we?

I have been troubled over the last, i dont know how long. But i will say it has been for quite some time. Over time, there has been alot of females becoming famous for having sex with celebrities. Then they have the nerve (and apparently the right) to call themselves a diva. This, i cannot stand. When i was introduced to the word "Diva", i had to be maybe 6 or 7. Honestly the age i was doesn't matter, the definition is what matters. My impression of a diva is a female that commanded attention and received it. A diva is a female with extraordinary talent and immense beauty that when she walked, the earth would move with her. That i have no problem with. I actually respect that. Nowadays, it seems the title Diva is given to a female that her claim to fame is her sexual exploits. How many females are famous for sleeping with (insert name here) or several gentlemen and getting paid for it. Umm, last i checked that was a prostitute.

My deeper issue is not even with the women that sleep with these men & get famous for it. My issue is with everyone paying attention to them and feeding into their "diva like status". Why should i care about you when in all actuality, you arent talented or have any viable skills. Sexy is one thing, but slutty is another. People rush home after work or after school or after doing nothing just to watch the latest episode of "whatever celeb wants to love a slut" reality show. Now, these females parade themselves around in an ungodly manner all to get whoever to "love" them. I cant fall for that. Now i understand with alot of these shows, people watch it for the drama, but i still feel like it is giving some females more attention than they deserve. Would you wanna know each and every move some slut from your neighborhood is doing? Maybe you do, but i dont!

These females get twitter accounts and have fan pages on facebook and get blogs where they post how to get a man by doing unmentionable things (well, i can mention them, but i choose not to). These women are actually coming out with books and movies and are becoming relevant in today society. Did i miss something? When were we supposed to care? Now i feel if you are famous for having sex, then have more sex on film and we can call you a porn star (or the low budget females, we can just call them porn actresses).

Some may see this as a rant by someone who is jealous or wants fame. Some would go as far as to call me a hater. I disagree with that if thats how you feel about what im saying. Im more of an old school person in the thought that sexual exploits should be no ones business. Now i understand we are all grown, but there should be so much a person knows about your bedroom business. Think about how many females are sitting around listening to their friend talk about how great her man is and how he puts it down in the bedroom. Can you truly be surprised if she makes advances on your man if she doesn't have one or the one she has isn't anywhere close to being a good man like the one you have? Most times, those same females say some bitch (excuse the language) stole her man. How could she have stolen your man when you gave her the blueprint on how to get him? I think back to a song by Salt & Peppa called "None Of Your Business". They speak on if they do this and that and whatever with a guy, its none of your business (obviously). But how could it not be someone's business when you are telling them all about it?

Some women may also say they are empowering themselves and doing a role reversal of sorts cause men have been doing that for years, sleeping with this person and that person. To those women i say, does two wrongs make a right? Arent we supposed to be better as a people and not stoop to the levels of low lives? Maybe thats the way i see it.

I would love to get opinions, please let me know what you think.

What makes a whore, a whore???

This is a poem i wrote about a year ago but i really like it. I hope you do too. Interpret it as u will.



what makes a whore, a whore???

when the visual is more important then the vocal
revealing flesh to strangers has you hopeful
no substance in the words you speak
hoping that the men you encounter are mentally weak
so that when you speak, they think of sheets
and you think dollars
does that make sense?
im not here to judge
that is up to your divine creator
im no hater
i just dont like hos
never have
never will
they do serve a purpose, but still.
does the almighty dollar have control of your soul?
to the point you have no control?
on the track to get a dollar, just to trade for sleep
risking health and happiness for the cheap
materialistic
sadistic
pimped
what makes a good man to you is the size of their whip
dick
bank deposit slip
does that stimulate the clit?
get it moist?
when you have mouths to feed
what would you put in yours to feed theirs
when the lights are gonna get cut off
and the rent is due
who would you screw?
im not here to judge
that is up to your divine creator
im no hater
i just dont like hos
simple and plain
flashy with chains
mistaking intelligence for "brains"
is that smart?
when you whisper im cummin daddy,
is that really from the heart?
have you been corrupted that badly
that giving oral in caddys
backshots in alleys
is apart of the biz...
shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!
solicitating your body online
for nickels and dimes
sometimes for the oohs and aahs
when you undo your bra
conceal your nipple
reveal your cleavage
and then when a man says something flirtatious
you wonder why the reason
when you speak of the quality of your pussy
to whomever will listen
then pay attention
because when your external beauty fades
and you see those signs of gray
and all those gentleman callers run away
then i wonder
will you wonder
"could i have been as appealing
without revealing"
what makes a whore, a whore
it makes me wonder now
but like i said
im not here to judge
that is up to your divine creator
im no hater
i just dont like hos

my introduction to this thing we call blogging

I have finally come to my senses and i have finally gotten a blog. I have quite the few topics to blog about. I've been searching for a new outlet to vent on for quite sometime and i have no idea why i haven't found this sooner, but this is why pens have erasers, lol (that was a joke). I would love to keep in touch with all those ppl who have any opinions on my blogs. You can also follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/Daddy_Jack & add me on facebook.