Do big women envy slim women?

I think there is no clear cut answer to this question, for many women have different personalities ( and express that to men all the time). But i think it does make for a good conversation piece. It is something that i wonder and have wondered about off and on for quite sometime.

To me, human beings are the most exquisite creatures on earth, big or small. There is beauty in each and every individual (yeah, thats coming from me). There are too many people that dont feel comfortable in their own skin, and i mostly find that from big women. Don't get me wrong, i see other females that worry about this and that, but their feelings toward how they look usually pale in comparison to a big woman.

I took a poll on twitter (my information source, lol) and honestly, the number of big girls that feel they love their body is not what i would have thought it to be. But then again, im not sure if these women consider themselves thick or fat. Even with the term "thick", i think that gives too vast (pardon the pun) of a description to someone. I still dont see how one can be 5'6" & 145 pounds and another woman can be 5'7" & 240 and both women consider themselves thick. I truly dont wanna go there on that one tho.

Of course, we can look to the media and say they cater to slimmer women and give the impression that slim is happy, that slim is beautiful. The media makes slim look so attractive, that one cannot help but want to emulate that. It even gets to the point where some big women comment on other big women with such disdain. A couple weeks ago, i overheard a loud woman walking down the street talking on the phone about some fat bitch (her words, not mine) hating on her. Now this woman had to be about 200 pounds or more, so i couldn't imagine what the other woman looks like. I think thats one of the strangest things. That to me is like someone who smokes crack talking badly about someone who shoots up dope (thats a graphic comparison, but i think its warranted). Apples and Oranges. But hey, my long standing motto is, to each their own.

I would love for more women to love who they are without having to feel they need to look or act a certain way. I did receive a tweet from a guy which may sum it up in one sentence... "women aren't satisfied with themselves, even though we may be more than satisfied with them". So, i guess the big girl may envy the slim woman but even if she achieves her ideal weight, she wont be happy. I know this isn't the case for all women, but it is for quite a few of em.

So, when you're thinking about getting in shape for your summer body, remember your summer body and her summer body may not be the same, but they are both beautiful in their own right. Health & happiness is the key. Thats all that should matter in life. Eliminate envy & you will go far in life.
But like i said earlier, i know its easier said than done.

Homosexuality = Terrorism???

I recently came across something on ABC News which i found very interesting. In Uganda, there is a proposed Anti Homosexuality Bill that would punish those who are in a homosexual relationship by death. An American Christian church group(they were white by the way) coincidentally went to Uganda a year ago, preaching to the people there on their views on how homosexuality is the devil & its corrupting & threatening the heterosexual union between man & woman. This was, in large part due to the preachings of Pastor Martin Ssempa. The Ugandans went to the streets, praising the proposed bill and chanted how homosexuality is the equivalent to sodomy.

see the video here



Even though this would be a great topic for discussion within itself, im actually going in a different direction. Pastor Martin Ssempa in one part of the interview compared homosexuality to terrorism. Yes, terrorism. He then went on to elaborate by calling homosexuality, "Sexual Terrorism". As i watched the rest of the interview, i could not help but to think about how gay men & women are subjected to such hate by some & vigorously defended by others. If you think about it, many Americans feel the same exact way as Martin Ssempa, even though they may not express it the same way. Homosexuality is not as wide spread understood & accepted as television may lead people to believe. Some men still feel threatened or feel disgusted by gay men & resented & disrespected by gay women. On December 13 2008, in the Bay Area city of Richmond, a lesbian woman was gang-raped by four men who used homophobic epithets as they violently assaulted her for almost an hour, before leaving her naked in the street. The vicious attack began when four men jumped her after she got out of her car, which had a rainbow sticker on it, clubbed her with a blunt object, disrobed her and began raping her. When a passerby almost stumbled on them during the rape, they bundled the woman into her car and took her to an abandoned building, where the sexual attack continued, until the men finally left her naked, and badly injured. Sadly, these attacks happen all the time as statistics show that anti- gay crimes are on the rise since 2006 nationwide. Gay men and women are being sought out and killed in the streets for being who they are.

Terrorists are considered ones who threaten another person or persons way of life. No one wants to know the motives behind why they do what they do, just get rid of them. Terrorists are considered the lowest of the low, the scum of the earth.

I think this is truly an unfair assessment of gay people. To compare a sexual preference with those who try to take the most dramatic measures to get their point across is not fair. Terrorists may feel that they have been persecuted due to their beliefs, but gay men and women suffer unjust criticism & treatment because one may not approve of their lifestyle.

The world we know it is not ready for change until we are truly ready to take off the masks that we wear and stop trying to fit everything into a convenient little box. Acceptance is divine.

Are Social Networking Sites Taking Over Peoples Lives?

This year on my birthday, i got few phone calls saying "happy birthday", but the following day, i checked facebook and i saw quite a few people left me happy birthday gifts & comments on my facebook page & didn't feel the need to call me to tell me happy birthday because they left me a message on facebook. I also received quite a few birthday shout outs on twitter. I always appreciate the shout outs & i'll never deny the love i get, but this is a trend that has taken over not only in my life, but in the lives of many other ppl i know.

Are social sites taking the human factor away from us as a people?

Many people nowadays have some sort of addiction to some social site. You can go to a party and i guarantee at least 10 percent of the people are on their phone texting or on their instant messenger of choice, telling others about the party when in actuality, they are missing the party. Being somewhat of a twitter addict (who am i kidding, its a full blown addiction, lol) I can log on twitter from my phone & get updates on all shows that are popular, on any pro sports games that are currently on & get a play by play as soon as my timeline updates. This isn't totally a bad thing, but it does take away from the human element technology has in a sense taken away.

Some people even go as far to blame the downfall of their relationships due to social networking sites. I think thats preposterous if you ask me. Social sites are just another avenue that cheaters may use to find new people to start relationships with. If they didn't exist, would cheaters cheat less? I doubt it myself. I have noticed from viewing & interacting with people online over the years that some people are naive enough to believe any & everything the other person on the other end of the wires is saying. So many relationships are started online without even meeting the person (I know a couple that got married without ever seeing each other in person). I am not one to judge. Whatever works for you. But it is a disturbing trend that social sites have started.

I do believe that interacting with someone online is actually a cool way to get a prospective on how others live in other points in the world. I am not anti social networking, but i am anti- "let facebook/twitter/tumblr/myspace/etc" take over your life. If you would rather stay inside on a Friday night, go online & see how your facebook fam is doing (i hate that term, lol) instead of going out and enjoying the precious gift of life & sharing it with others, something is wrong. Now if you are the type to be anti social in public, but have 3,000 facebook friends and 20,000 twitter people you follow, that may be a warning sign that life is passing you by.

Balance is key, nothing should take over your life. Your actions. The decisions you make.

With that said, make sure you follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/Daddy_Jack (lol, i couldn't help it)

Diva? Lets see, shall we?

I have been troubled over the last, i dont know how long. But i will say it has been for quite some time. Over time, there has been alot of females becoming famous for having sex with celebrities. Then they have the nerve (and apparently the right) to call themselves a diva. This, i cannot stand. When i was introduced to the word "Diva", i had to be maybe 6 or 7. Honestly the age i was doesn't matter, the definition is what matters. My impression of a diva is a female that commanded attention and received it. A diva is a female with extraordinary talent and immense beauty that when she walked, the earth would move with her. That i have no problem with. I actually respect that. Nowadays, it seems the title Diva is given to a female that her claim to fame is her sexual exploits. How many females are famous for sleeping with (insert name here) or several gentlemen and getting paid for it. Umm, last i checked that was a prostitute.

My deeper issue is not even with the women that sleep with these men & get famous for it. My issue is with everyone paying attention to them and feeding into their "diva like status". Why should i care about you when in all actuality, you arent talented or have any viable skills. Sexy is one thing, but slutty is another. People rush home after work or after school or after doing nothing just to watch the latest episode of "whatever celeb wants to love a slut" reality show. Now, these females parade themselves around in an ungodly manner all to get whoever to "love" them. I cant fall for that. Now i understand with alot of these shows, people watch it for the drama, but i still feel like it is giving some females more attention than they deserve. Would you wanna know each and every move some slut from your neighborhood is doing? Maybe you do, but i dont!

These females get twitter accounts and have fan pages on facebook and get blogs where they post how to get a man by doing unmentionable things (well, i can mention them, but i choose not to). These women are actually coming out with books and movies and are becoming relevant in today society. Did i miss something? When were we supposed to care? Now i feel if you are famous for having sex, then have more sex on film and we can call you a porn star (or the low budget females, we can just call them porn actresses).

Some may see this as a rant by someone who is jealous or wants fame. Some would go as far as to call me a hater. I disagree with that if thats how you feel about what im saying. Im more of an old school person in the thought that sexual exploits should be no ones business. Now i understand we are all grown, but there should be so much a person knows about your bedroom business. Think about how many females are sitting around listening to their friend talk about how great her man is and how he puts it down in the bedroom. Can you truly be surprised if she makes advances on your man if she doesn't have one or the one she has isn't anywhere close to being a good man like the one you have? Most times, those same females say some bitch (excuse the language) stole her man. How could she have stolen your man when you gave her the blueprint on how to get him? I think back to a song by Salt & Peppa called "None Of Your Business". They speak on if they do this and that and whatever with a guy, its none of your business (obviously). But how could it not be someone's business when you are telling them all about it?

Some women may also say they are empowering themselves and doing a role reversal of sorts cause men have been doing that for years, sleeping with this person and that person. To those women i say, does two wrongs make a right? Arent we supposed to be better as a people and not stoop to the levels of low lives? Maybe thats the way i see it.

I would love to get opinions, please let me know what you think.

What makes a whore, a whore???

This is a poem i wrote about a year ago but i really like it. I hope you do too. Interpret it as u will.



what makes a whore, a whore???

when the visual is more important then the vocal
revealing flesh to strangers has you hopeful
no substance in the words you speak
hoping that the men you encounter are mentally weak
so that when you speak, they think of sheets
and you think dollars
does that make sense?
im not here to judge
that is up to your divine creator
im no hater
i just dont like hos
never have
never will
they do serve a purpose, but still.
does the almighty dollar have control of your soul?
to the point you have no control?
on the track to get a dollar, just to trade for sleep
risking health and happiness for the cheap
materialistic
sadistic
pimped
what makes a good man to you is the size of their whip
dick
bank deposit slip
does that stimulate the clit?
get it moist?
when you have mouths to feed
what would you put in yours to feed theirs
when the lights are gonna get cut off
and the rent is due
who would you screw?
im not here to judge
that is up to your divine creator
im no hater
i just dont like hos
simple and plain
flashy with chains
mistaking intelligence for "brains"
is that smart?
when you whisper im cummin daddy,
is that really from the heart?
have you been corrupted that badly
that giving oral in caddys
backshots in alleys
is apart of the biz...
shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit!
solicitating your body online
for nickels and dimes
sometimes for the oohs and aahs
when you undo your bra
conceal your nipple
reveal your cleavage
and then when a man says something flirtatious
you wonder why the reason
when you speak of the quality of your pussy
to whomever will listen
then pay attention
because when your external beauty fades
and you see those signs of gray
and all those gentleman callers run away
then i wonder
will you wonder
"could i have been as appealing
without revealing"
what makes a whore, a whore
it makes me wonder now
but like i said
im not here to judge
that is up to your divine creator
im no hater
i just dont like hos

my introduction to this thing we call blogging

I have finally come to my senses and i have finally gotten a blog. I have quite the few topics to blog about. I've been searching for a new outlet to vent on for quite sometime and i have no idea why i haven't found this sooner, but this is why pens have erasers, lol (that was a joke). I would love to keep in touch with all those ppl who have any opinions on my blogs. You can also follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/Daddy_Jack & add me on facebook.